Tuesday, December 4, 2012

If I Die Young

Sometimes emotion needs to be vented and for me, there's no better way to do that than by writing. So here I am putting it all out to the universe in hopes that someone will learn something from the tragedies that have taken place around me these last few days.

Two days ago my cousin, who was 30 weeks pregnant, very abruptly lost her baby. Last night, a dear friend to the family lost his life without warning. I just saw my cousin a couple of weeks ago and everything was fine, baby was healthy and she was so happy and excited. It was her first child. I also saw the family friend around the same time, he was in his mid-forties and looked as healthy, if not healthier, than any person at his age should look.

When my mom called me last night to tell me the news, suddenly the most important thing in my life was that my husband, lying next to me, knew how much I loved him. I think sometimes I lose sight of that. I get caught up in my to-do's and I worry over things that just don't matter.

Life is what matters.

Even my writing exploits went down a notch. Sometimes I get so worried about how much I'm working on something that I forget to slow down and just be with my children and my husband.

This is a reminder of what is really precious in life. Writing is great way to spend your time, it's a worthy dream and goal, but don't let it overtake everything else. Becasue the lives around you are more important than that.


19 comments:

Anonymous said...

More than any other job I've worked, writing is all-consuming and you're so right, LIFE-- the living of it-- is precious. The reality must supercede the fiction.

David P. King said...

I'm sorry for the losses, but thank you for the important reminder of what really matters. I know what I'm doing when I go home.

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

I'm so sorry! Prayers for your and your family.
We need to remember we are doing it for them, not instead of.

prerna pickett said...

wonderful post to remind us what really matters. I'm sorry for your loss and that of your cousins.

Suzanne Furness said...

Sorry to hear your sad news it is often these things that remind us of what is really important in life.

Jenny S. Morris said...

I so sorry to hear about your families loss. I will keep you all in my prayers. Family is so important and spending time with them is a very precious thing. *hugs*

Morgan said...

It's everywhere, J... serious. It's attacked us too. We've had 3 close friends lose their kids recently... and 2 people in my neighborhood die, and I've had 3 uncles in the last couple years pass away... I know of course people are always passing on, but it makes it so much more *real* when you know them...

Thanks for this lovely post.

Lyn Midnight said...

Aww, sweety, I am so sorry to hear about this! But I am so proud of you of writing down your feelings and sharing your inspiring words with us. Seriously, you know I feel the same way. Life is a precious gift, so we have to stop wasting it. Just today I was freaking out about one silly thing or another when there are much more important things going on. Thanks for reminding me. I'm sending you a big hug and my condolences. :(

Livia said...

This is very eye-opening post, Jennie! I too get so caught up with my blogging and writing that I forget to put family first. Goals are important as family, just finding the balance is the tricky part.

Sending my love to the Bennett family - you'll get through this. *hugs*

Angela V. Cook said...

My deepest condolences to you and your family.

Today my husband got some bad news regarding his health, and suddenly, that full request I got meant very little to me. Goals and other "things" are important in life, but at the end of the day, nothing is more important to me than the health and well-being of family.

JEFritz said...

I'm so sorry for your friends and family. My thoughts are with them.

Kathleen said...

Beautiful post. I'm sorry to hear about the losses in your life. Thinking of you, your family, and your friends.

Jadzia Brandli said...

You have my sympathies and my thoughts are with you. A close friend of my family died last Tuesday (though she was elderly, she was full of life and it was a surprise). And my great grandmother is in the hospital dying. They're both old, sure, but it still hurts to lose someone. I'll be thinking of you and the families of those you lost.

Ciara said...

I'm sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family.
My husband just asked me to spend five days with him, and no computer. I've agreed because I realized how important it is to unplug and spend time together.

Donna K. Weaver said...

I'm so sorry to hear this. I learned early in my life how brief it can be. At least you're open to the reminder this tough time is for you and those you love. *hugs*

Lynn(e) Schmidt said...

JA, I'm sorry. This was a beautiful post, and I am sending some positive vibes your way.

Lynn(e) Schmidt said...

JA, I'm sorry. This was a beautiful post, and I am sending some positive vibes your way.

Krista McLaughlin said...

I'm so sorry, Jen. That's so sad. :( My prayers are with you and your family. It's hard to see how short life can really be sometimes. We can only hug those we love and remember that life isn't forever, but we do have now.

Pk Hrezo said...

What a beautiful song and video. I'm so sorry to hear of these deaths. 30 weeks along?? Your poor cousin. I'd be devastated beyond words.

What you mention is something I've realized over the past couple of years when I've thrown myself into my writing. Yes, we want to succeed and work hard for it, but what's most important is the family that's counting on our unwavering support everyday. Anything else can wait.