Wednesday, March 6, 2013

IWSG: Doubting yourself

Welcome to the first Wednesday of the month. It's time for another round of the Insecure Writer's Support Group created by the genius Alex J. Cavanaugh!



This month I wanted to talk about doubting yourself. We've all done it. In fact, that was the entire reason this group was started. Even Alex, whom we all look up to, has had his moments.

Today, rather than talking about my insecurities I simply wanted to share a message of hope.

This too shall pass.

We all have moments where we think we aren't good enough to write the kind of story we really want to. Maybe we've even written a story and now we see that it isn't going to work like we hoped.

I'm here to tell you that I've been there. I've come through it. I'm getting stronger with each mistake. I know someday I'll get where I want to be. Why? Because I didn't quit trying.

All those doubts haven't passed for me, but I do have moments where I can see a sliver of who I can become with hard work. That's enough to keep me going.

Keep your chin up and your fingers on the keyboard. This too shall pass.

23 comments:

Stina Lindenblatt said...

I'm more confident than I was a year ago. My confidence grows each day. But that might be because I haven't started querying my current book.

Usually if the story isn't going where I want it to go, or I get the feeling this isn't going to be the one, I move on and chalk it up as practice. There's no point driving yourself crazy on a story that you know deep down isn't big enough to be noticed.

Julie Luek said...

Like Stina, I am definitely more confident today than I was a year ago. And I'm hoping a year from now-- two years-- and more, I'll be even more sure of my writing. I also am realistic enough to know that there will be times I sink into the insecurity again. :) It's a process.

Kyra Lennon said...

Thanks Jennie! As someone who is just clawing my way out of one of those moments of doubt, I know you are most definitely right!

J M Filipowicz said...

I have two people inside me, one who wants to succeed and one who wants to fail. I just have to be careful who I listen to.

VikLit said...

Thanks, I needed to hear that it will pass today. You are right!

ilima said...

Thanks, Jennie. I needed this today. :)

Ink in the Book said...

That's right. Chin up, fingers typing. Never give up and never quit writing. That's the best way to success.

As I always say, failure is falling, and not getting up.

Success is falling, and getting back up to do better.

Annalisa Crawford said...

Yes, exactly. Great post!

Jeff Hargett said...

And it came to pass... Actually, I think doubts can be healthy, seeing as they serve to offset super-sized ego and such. But dwelling on those doubts and insecurities is just the opposite side of the pendulum's swing--also to be avoided.

Al Diaz said...

Doubting myself. Do it all the time, on daily basis. Sometimes I get so tired of it that I start joking about it. Must get rid of that habit.

Nicole said...

Thanks for the reminder. :)

Tyrean Martinson said...

Great message of hope!!!

Pk Hrezo said...

So true! While we're in the slump it seems awful, but when we can look back from a higher place, we realize we had to do our time in order to get to where we need to be. The point is to keep trying. :)

Sarah said...

It's that sliver that keeps me going too. Boy, this is a humbling road to take. I think I'm still improving rather than getting worse, but sometimes (most of the time) I wonder if that's true.

I've already seen how you've improved and am in awe of how quickly you do. You amaze me. Keep it up.

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Yes, I do have my moments. Will an idea hit me for another book?
And if not, I will be happy just playing guitar.
Of course, an idea HAS hit me though...

Krista McLaughlin said...

Awesome post Jen! We will all make it through these rough patches. :) I won't give up either. :)

Unknown said...

This too shall pass.
Those four words can be so comforting! :)

Shannon Lawrence said...

You're right, this too shall pass. Thanks for the positive message!

Shannon at The Warrior Muse

Lexa Cain said...

My mind knows that "This too shall pass," and you can only get where you're going if you keep trying. But my heart isn't quite so optimistic.
Thanks for the encouragement and the words of wisdom. :-)

Kimberly Gabriel said...

I love this post! I love the line "I see a sliver of who I can become with hard work." That's beautiful. Thank you for the uplifting post!

Mark Noce said...

I actually try to use my doubt as a good sign. Doubt is natural and strengthens us when we come out of it, like a trial by fire. It's like this in all facets of our life: faith, God, writing. Not doubting...now that would be troublesome:)

J M Filipowicz said...

I often wish I could swap out my self-doubt for ambition. I could be an astronaut/artist/superhero.

Tara Tyler said...

thank you! i needed that
that and a kick in the butt!