Friday, November 4, 2011

On Being a Christian

Today I have the honor of hosting David Walker for another Life List Club guest post! I'll be over at Jenny Hanson's blog so be sure to stop by there when you're done here. Take it away David!

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Some Christians seem to think that being a Christian demands that you orally witness to or evangelize everyone you come in contact with. I don’t mean to denigrate the Billy Grahams or James Robisons that God has called to major public ministries or the myriad street preachers He has called to preach to the homeless or just to people they happen to come across on busy sidewalks.



These people need to respond to the call God has placed on their lives. If that’s it, then they need to go for it. But that doesn’t mean we should make pests of ourselves grabbing and twisting the arms of all we come in contact with.

Our lives speak much louder than our words. A wise man once told me that no one cares what you know until he knows that you care.

If I comport myself in such a way that Jesus shows through in my behavior and my conversation, that speaks far louder to most people I come in contact with than any argument I could put forth as to why they need Jesus. If I hug a waitress I frequently patronize (and tip generously) or have a kind word of encouragement for a Wal-Mart employee, the recipient of that kindness can see Jesus much more clearly than through any words I could say.

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My 95 year-old mother lives in an assisted living home. One of the other ladies who is much younger and more able than Mother approached me the other day and told me she was flying to Austin to visit relatives and asked me to pray for her safety. We’d never spoken about God, but apparently she sensed something about me that led her to make the request. If you’ve never had someone like that—or a waitress or store clerk or other such person—come to you with an unsolicited prayer request, you can’t imagine how it makes you feel.



Have I ever witnessed openly to another person? Have I ever led anyone in a prayer of salvation? Yes, when God specifically put it on my heart to do so, and both are very meaningful and memorable experiences. But unless God tugs at my heart to let me know this person is ready, I refrain. I don’t know anyone who appreciates being preached to unless it’s at a service where it’s expected.

I don’t have to wait for Him to tell me that this is the time to be nice to someone—that this is the time to hug someone or pat someone on the back or say a kind word. I can’t think of anyone who doesn’t appreciate proper positive attention, and it’s the desire of my heart to give it.

None of this is to say that I’m some big holy person. I’m not. I’m a sinner saved by grace, but God is at work in me making me a little bit more like His Son. That’s His purpose in the life of any Christian. The more I stay out of His way and let Him do His work in me, the more His Son shows through me and touches the lives of others.


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A graduate of Duke University, David spent 42 years as a health insurance agent. Most of his career was spent in Texas, but for a few years he traveled to many other states. He started writing about 20 years ago, and has six unpublished novels to use as primers on how NOT to write fiction. Since his retirement from insurance a few years ago, he has devoted his time to helping Kristen Lamb start Warrior Writers’ Boot Camp and trying to learn to write a successful novel himself.

David N. Walker is a Christian father
and grandfather and a grounded pilot. He co-founded Warrior Writers Boot Camp with Kristen Lamb. You can read more of his posts at
http://davwalk.wordpress.com or tweet him at @davidnwalkertx.

19 comments:

Pam said...

- and it is those daily acts of kindness, connection and support that bring those of us who struggle with our faith closer to being "ready" : ).

J. A. Bennett said...

David, I already told you this but I admire you for putting this out there. It is so true that no one want to be pushed upon and we all should remember to share a little more and care a little more to be better Christians. Thank you for a lovely post!

Sonia G Medeiros said...

Kindness and generosity speak so loud. Thank you for sharing!

Gary Gauthier said...

David, I believe that we are ultimately judged by our actions, not what we preach. So I can definitely relate to your message. I come from a family of Catholics but since young adulthood, I always felt how I behaved was more important than any faith I professed. And, of course, there are those who use their faith as a catalyst and motivating force to do good.

davwalk said...

Thanks Pam, Jennie and Sonia for your kind words.

davwalk said...

Thanks for your comments, Pam, Jennie and Sonia. I appreciate them.

davwalk said...

Gary, it looks like I ignored you. Your comment was posted while blogspot was deciding whether to post my reply twice or ignore it. Anyhhow, I appreciate your comments also.

Emily R. King said...

Great post! I agree that the best way to share our beliefs is by living them. Live by example!

davwalk said...

Thanks, E.R.

jesswords10 said...

Are you sure I couldn't pay you to talk to a couple of my family members?! Honestly, I totally agree with Pam. The kind and open-hearted acts of others is what makes me more open-minded and accepting. I grew up in a very fundamental environment, and I detested the hypocrisy of it. I'm starting to take interest again, but as you said, it has to be on my terms. I appreciate your willingness to discuss it without being overbearing or judgmental towards those who question. Thank you David!

Jessie Humphries said...

Thanks for the thoughtful post. I am going to be thinking about this for awhile. :)

Marcia Richards said...

David, I'm so glad you wrote this. I have had friends who were so over the top on pushing their Christian beliefs on me and everyone else they could grab for a moment, that our friendship eventually dissolved. It was unpleasant to be with them because of their behavior. I was raised as a Catholic and am very comfortable in my faith and don't intend to change. But then I don't see Christian faith as much different than Catholic. My mother always said that if you live life as a good person, care about others and do whatever good you can, you can't go wrong whatever religion you subscribe to. I believe that. Thanks for sharing this.

Bethany C. said...

Love this--and it's so true.

I'm a preacher's kid--lots of expectations on me and my sisters growing up on how we "should be". What I've come to realize is God doesn't expect me to be anyone other than me. I'm not comfortable standing at a pulpit, speaking to hundreds of people. I'm not good going door to door offering up the gospel. I'm good at going to work every day. Respecting my husband and our marraige. Loving my kids, celebrating the fact that one of them has special needs and I consider that a gift instead of a detrement. That's how I honor God and witness to the world that I'm saved.

davwalk said...

Thanks for your comments, Jess, Jessie, Marcia and Bethany. And Bethany, you hit a nail on the head. God designed you to be the person He wanted you to be. If He'd wanted clones or robots, He would have created clones or robots. He treasures the individuality of each of his children.

Jennifer Brown Banks said...

Oh my God! Bravo! Bravo! David this was so eloquently presented, and echoes my sentiments regarding "witnessing" to the Lord.

I'm gonna try to print this for future reference. Thank you, and J.A. for sharing this.

Sincerely,

Jennifer Brown Banks

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

God calls us to witness. It is through our actions that we evangelize.
And in our words, such as the ones I wrote for my book - true brotherly love is so rare.

Jenny S. Morris said...

I totally agree with you. Our actions speak so much. Words do as well. But, the don't have to be in your face. Most people are very turned off by that.

Great post.

davwalk said...

Thank you Jennifer, Alex and Jenny. Glad I struck a chord that resonated with you.

Krista M said...

So very true! Our actions speak louder than trying to bible thump someday and it makes a difference in their lives. Great post!